In this age of seemingly endless uncontrollable violence there is a desperate need for change, for a balancing force, for a return to sanity.

Dr. Gajdos points out in powerful memorable words and images that the world is out of balance. She is optimistic that there is a force in the world today that will restore balance that is desperately needed. The force she writes about is the rise of the wounded feminine.

Every night on TV and in our movies we see countless acts of cruelty, torture and murder.  They fascinate us. We see the “heroes” of these works as men (usually) to be admired and emulated for their power. But in another sense what are we presenting to the world and to our children. Do they only resonate and emulate that good will triumph over evil? Do they not also admire and emulate the power and the violence and the invincibility of these murdering heroes?

Seen in this light our movie and television industries are pumping poison into the minds of our children – and people and children all over the world. Is it any surprise then to read every other week of another shooting in a school, another rampage in a mall, another group of children murdered by a disturbed violent man with an assault weapon and hundreds of rounds of ammunition?

One of the images that Dr. Gajdos recalls for us is of Lisbeth Salander of the Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. The image presented on the screen is of Lisbeth, after her father and brother have beaten and buried her in the backyard. Out of the dirt that was thrown on her grave, we see her hand slowly emerge and reach upward to the sky. This is the rise of the wounded feminine. This is what the world needs.

As a society we have elevated the masculine traits and denigrated the feminine traits. We must restore the feminine qualities.

In this beautifully written book Dr. Gajdos gives us many instances of the masculine domination and where that has taken us and where it will lead us in the future. She also gives us examples of women and men in whom the feminine qualities and traits exist. She tells us of their accomplishments and their goals and explains very clearly why they are a force for good in the world

Her analysis of Stieg Larsson’s trilogy, based on a Jungian perspective, is a brilliant example of her overall thesis.

She also explores the meaning of many current events:

The rise of Hillary Clinton, Meg Whitman, Judge Ruth Bader Ginsburg; The TV series The Good Wife and The Newsroom; The movies The Hunger Games; The Help, The Color Purple and The Whale Rider; The buying of America by the Koch brothers and others; The Catholic Church today; the turmoil in the Israeli-Palestinian Conflict; our Supreme Court and many other organizations and aspects of everyone’s life.

The world has committed violence against women. We celebrate and reward the masculine and we denigrate and repress the feminine. We are the worse for it. Suggestions for the control of violence more often than not are based on further male domination: “Arm the teachers.” “More police”, “Metal detectors everywhere”. “Give the peaceful people more powerful weapons to counterattack the attackers”. “Meet force with more force.” A Texas politician actually suggested that if everyone in the theater, where the Batman movie played, had been “packing heat” the killer would have been shot before he killed so many people. Really? And what about the bullets flying around the theater – hundreds and hundreds of bullets fired wildly by panicked frightened people? How many in that theater would have been shot by all of those who were “packing’ heat”?

Where will this take us?

Gandhi asked, “Where does ‘an eye for an eye’ lead us? It leads us to a world in which everyone is blind.”

Are we already blind?

This is an important book that should be read far and wide. It is a call for sanity in a world gone mad with the thirst for power, money, revenge, violence and murder. We are poisoning our children, poisoning our rivers, poisoning our sky and poisoning the Earth.

Dr. Gajdos’s book is a call to arms. Her message is,  We must lay down our arms, our assault weapons, our rifles our handguns and we must reach out our arms…to embrace each other.

We live in a world in which the masculine is dominant and the feminine is repressed. Our world is out of balance. To survive we must change.

Barry M. Panter, M.D., Ph.D.
Founder and Co-Director,
The American Institute of Medical Education
The Creativity and Madness Conferences
The American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology
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Quiet Wisdom in Loud Times Copyright © 2014 by Kathleen Curzie Gajdos. All Rights Reserved.

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